I've been wanting to write a post about how I don't text and how I don't have a fancy blackberry type phone. I've put it off because I know I will seem like an old fogy. I'm not with the times. And how it's just socially the norm. BUT people I just can't keep quiet any longer!
I took my kids to a popular town park today. It was the first time this summer that we've gone simply because it's a distance from our house and we have a new swing set that the kids enjoy. I couldn't believe that sight all around me. I literally felt like I was in a hidden camera show... I was in disbelief staring at all the parents.... all but one were on their phones staring at screens.
The first time I noticed was when I arrived. Two ladies were sitting in the gazebo on their gadgets. Then I noticed another Mom walking around with one in her hand, checking it often. I saw her reading and saying to her 2ish year old son, "down down down" as he went down the rolly slide. Sure she was talking to him, but that is not interacting!
Then I saw a Dad watching his child play in the sandbox. Later he was in the gazebo too, on his gadget. And I can't forget the lady who was good enough to stand next to her child while she spun in the little strawberry cup thing. When the child moved on to something else, she followed barely looking up from her gadget.
At one point there were FIVE out of 7 parents on their fancy phones and I wished I had a camera with me capture the moment.
It was pathetic.
They were expressionless zombies. Is this how they want their children to remember them? Do they really think they are spending quality time with their kids at the park??
I think cell phones are great for calling a friend to say "Hey I'm at the park, wanna meet me?" Or even if a Mom is burnt out and she needed to get out and just let the kids run around. But honestly I don't think that was the case with these people.
Is checking in with people on Facebook or texting more important that being present in that moment in your life?
In 10 years are you going to wish you were on your gadget more or that you spent more time talking to your children, your family and your friends?
This is why I do not text. Messages can wait til I check my emails.
Nothing is that urgent.
If it was then I'd get a call.
I realize I am behind the times by not texting but I can't be the only one looking around me seeing how pathetic society is becoming.
We need to get our nose out of our gadgets and be more present with the people IN FRONT OF us.
I felt so overwhelmingly sad when I left the park today.
And I had to share. Because maybe someone reading this just didn't think of this before.
Look around not down!
I am in no way the perfect Mom. I ignore my kids plenty. But I am aware of the time I spend and am always trying to be better. And I know my own temptations well enough to know that I shouldn't own a crackberry.